Friday, October 05, 2007

hate mail

Recently my humor post "Why I Don't Date Asian Men" has been linked from a number of forums. I've been getting long comments (and email) every day for the past month, accelerating this week to every couple of hours.

Thanks Niniane. You pretty much helped contributed to undo all the efforts many Asian Americans have worked every hard to fight stereotypes in this country. As an Asian woman, you should be ashame of yourself to contribute to more stereotypes.


Wake up and realize jokes like this are not funny especially when Asian men have been butt end of the jokes by the white society for years. Finally, I have no idea why you dated so many losers. I know many Asian men and none are like what you described.


asian girls like you are embrassment


Some of the hate mail contain their own generalizations. They seem to center around white men forcing their women to financially support them. Does this really happen?

Asian men: Graduted from Harvard, makes 100K+ plus a year, and doesn't expect you to cook and clean like a house slave because his salary will cover the house maids and cooks.

White men: Dropped out of University of Pheonix, makes below $16,000 a year, expects you to cook, clean, work, and act as a slave because he doesn't have the salary for the house maids and cooks.


From what I've seen, white men:
1. force their Asian girlfriends to cook.
2. talk down to their Asian girlfriends.
3. ask her to wear a kimono, even if she wasn't Japanese.
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6. make her pay the bills, while he earns his degree in Art History.


I was puzzled by the recent plethora of hate mail, because my article begins with a whole paragraph where I say I would love to date a chinese guy if only he were sweet. But I suppose if you're coming from a forum like "Chinese Unity Forever!" or "People Against Asian Females who Date Fat Bald White Guys", then you'll skip any contrary evidence and go straight for the blood-boiling sections.

This reader was the most reasonable, I thought:

However, after reading your post again, I do realize that you meant no harm and was just looking to playfully poke at Asian men.

The part that annoys me is that your attitude on this subject is very reckless in the fact that other non-Asians are reading and watching. Some are just using this as ammunition to attack Asian men, a group your own brother belongs to.

I've already noticed that your post has sprung up on other websites with your explanation on how this was just a joke edited out.


I'm not going to remove the post, since that will just fuel more comments, as people dig it out of the Google cache. Also I stand by how it was meant in fun.

I suppose when I return from my camping trip this weekend, I'll have a hefty stack of hate mail in my inbox to read.

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Anonymous said...

Bee - what you don't get is what does all the bullshit some Asians did throughout history in Asia has anything to do with Asian American men?

You do sound like your typical white racist since you pretty much used every stereotype white men have been using to insult Asian men throughout American history. While many of those stereotypes you claimed about Asian men can just as easily apply to all the white men, but you will never believe that would you? If you think all the stereotypes are true, then you are no different than your typical ignorant white racist.

What people find it amusing is why haven't you answer any of their questions? How is it you don't hold any grudges against white men for all the terrible things they did throughout European history? How about genocide committed by the Nazis in WW II? Just admit it already, you are a either a white man or a brainwashed bitch that believe white is right even if they murdered your whole family. It must be a great life to be someone's lapdog. I am sure they will throw you a bone once in a while.

Anonymous said...

Bee sat there slamming Asian men (and other race women too) and turned around as indignant oppressed individual? LOL? What do you feel about hapa men? Men that if you have children (assuming that you aren't a white male) will be half-Asian. In the general society, more likely than not, be considered Asian too. If you believed in all those stereotypes your kids would have them. Especially since masculine traits like male patterned baldness are MATRILINEAL. Do these self hating Asian females hate their own children? Don't they realize by their actions they're making it worse on them?

Anonymous said...

Bee = Niniane ?

Anonymous said...

Bee = Niniane

That much be it. I have never read a Thai whore writing bullsit with this level of English capability.

Anonymous said...

Good to see Asians don't need whites to oppress them. They seem to be doing a great job oppressing themselves.

Anonymous said...

Well you know how it goes. House Negro Vs. Field Negro. The whole situation is a slow boiler. If ain't resolved there will be violence. The longer we wait to get this crap sorted the more tragic the eventually outcome.

Anonymous said...

I don't know anything about you and I won't pretend to. It is obvious though that you think it's just harmless fun and not truly rascist in any way. May I ask why you find it "fun" to negatively stereotype asian men? I don't see you doing it to white or black men, or to asian women. There are a million outlets for creative humor. Is it only a coincidence that you chose to slam asian men?
Peace my asian sister.

Anonymous said...

Wow, what a thread.

I guess I'm coming in on the tail end of this. I'm neither white nor asian, but I find this topic intriguing. Everything was interesting until the racist Italian guy came on, and he alerted some of his racist white comrades to join in.

First, let me get this out of the way. Italians are the shit-stains of the white race. They're not even typically white, but they hang onto white culture with desperate intent. That Anthony character is a pure loser, and like the millions of other dumb italians, they chose to displace their frustration from personal failings onto minorities, especially blacks. Italians are some of the stupidest people to walk the face of the earth, bar none.

I feel for asian males. On this issue, I agree 100% with what you are all saying. While some asian women date white males simply because everything just sorta happened that way, too many asian females equate white males with success and power, and thus gravitate towards them because they feel asian males will never have the same level of authority in America. What should be address is why so many asian females are raised to attribute such importance to material gain, and not what really counts...character, charity, honesty, decency towards all human beings.

My advice to asian males, try to ignore the confused asian females who are white-washed. There's plenty of asian and non-asian females who would love to find a good quality asian male. Yes, you may have to work harder to find them, but they're there.

Not everyone shares who shares these precious moments of life will be quality, moral people. There's no law saying that you can't be stupid. Our little greaseball friend Anthony is a perfect example.

Anonymous said...

You're just another horny nigger trying to assume all minority pussy plus white pussy belongs to you. You niggers think all white men should be castrated slaves. Talk your nigger shit all you want and run down italians but niggers are lazy and ignorant worldwide.

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