Dinner last night, with our family friends who live in Taiwan. The last time I saw them was when I was seven years old.
Mrs. FF: "Do your parents insist that you only date within your race? Only Chinese?"
Mr. FF: "Only from Anhui?" (Anhui is the Chinese province of my ancestry. My grandparents moved from there to Beijing before my mother was born.)
Me: [laughing] "Heavens, no."
Mrs. FF: "They're okay with you dating non-Chinese?"
Mrs. FF: "As long as it's not a black person, right?"
As soon as the words left her mouth, I thought, "God damn it, not this again." Modern-day Chinese people will say such things without batting an eyelash. The anti-racism social pressure is not as high as in America.
Me: "My parents have no racial restrictions on who I date."
Mrs. FF: "My friend emigrated her family to America, and her big fear was that her daughter would marry a black man. Because then you know, they'd have mixed children."
Me: [in horror, grasping for the fastest way to shut her up] "My mother says it's fine even if I'm gay."
Mr. and Mrs. FF: "What???"