Chatting during dinner.
Coworker #2: My ex keeps talking to me! I need to move on, and she's making it harder.
Coworker #1: Just do what I do.
Rest of us: [turning attentively toward him]
Coworker #1: Delete her number from your mobile, block her from your IM, and tell your common friends, "Pick a side -- me or her."
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I told this to Trent, who said, "Don't forget to set up an email filter so that her emails are automatically routed to the Trash."
Dan and I previously discussed the best way to handle a breakup. You can either continue to talk to each other, or stop contact cold turkey until you're both over it.
We both think it's better to take a break from your ex, until the relationship ashes are cold.
Now, the difficult situation is if your ex wants to talk, and you've moved on but you know they haven't. Further contact is going to prolong their recovery. Do you figure that they know what's best for themselves, so you go along? Or do you decide they're not behaving in their own best interests, and you ignore their calls in order to protect them from themselves?
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How do you handle the break up between the classmates? You got to stay with her/him for more than 6 hours every day in the same classroom.
> How do you handle the break up between the classmates?
1. Don't dip your quill in the schoolyard ink.
or
2. Since there will be drama anyway, you might as well go all-out. Immediately start dating another classmate. Or date your teacher. Or both of you can start dating your teacher.
oops...
I just made a breakup last night. Then I saw this. What a coincidence!
wow i'm in that exact predicament. it's so hard!
You impose an impasse by telling them that you are too pained by talking to them and cannot bear the contact. If they keep contacting you at that point you shut them out. This will spare you the drama and will save them from pain. My formula is that the time to resume contact is after twice the time of the duration of the relationship has passed.
that sounds pretty good Anonymous, at 3/16/2007 12:21 AM
It is very hard to cut all kind of communications, but I think is the only way....well, when there was true love...
If it was just a game....theres no problem, you can keep talking to each other :D
Well thats what I think
Is the classroom that small that it's such a bother?
And besides, how long would that drama last? And does it really matter? How weak can a person be if ya so easily moved by your friends. Talk about peer pressure. :/
One should learn how to control their own emotions, thoughts and words, no matter the circumstances.
Been there done that. It makes me much stronger than before, meaning I don't take no crap from nobody unless it's made of gold and worth my time. The process wasn't easy, but since when good things come easy? It only comes easy for short term, which we all lovingly enjoy and suffer later on.
i feel like, the right thing to do is to remain resolute in your decision. But the hardest thing, and maybe the wrong thing is thinking that the choice you made for both of you was not the right one.
What do you do then?
答案在这里：
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若夫乘天地之正，而御六气之辩，以游无穷者，彼且恶乎待哉！故曰：至人无己，神人无功，圣人无名。
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I prefer to stop all contact until my feelings are resolved. Usually once they are resolved, I wouldn't take him back if somebody paid me. By that time I've finally opened my eyes to how bad things were (not just the good times) and I don't see how I could go back.
As for him, I don't care if he keeps loving me forever or not. His recovery has nothing to do with me. He should've done right to begin with then we'd still be together and happy. :)
Just say it to their face, "Move on, will you? 'coz I hv!"
Too harsh? Perhaps.
But reality bites. And there is no reason we should sugarcoat it.
Talking to the ex is good for therapy and other things.
I always talk to the ex because it gives you a good chance to bang them again.
Sex with the ex is usually good.
Finally they get the point and move on and I've saved money on hookers.
No harm no foul.
看您这种劣等黄种人那“高等华人”的吊样。
等中国人统治美国时，看看您的混血杂种后代会如何？
不要不相信奇迹，在21世纪，中国人定会统治这个世界。
谁是世界上知晓东西两种文化的种族，谁是世界上既了解字母体系文化又了解象形文化的种族？
是现代中国人。从哲学上讲，如果中国人不统治地球，对不起白人的上帝。
I typically save vs. Wisdom on a d20; failing that, ethereal Power Word Kill...
Sometimes I get a series of negative blog comments that arrive a few minutes apart, from older and older entries. It's clearly from a single reader.
They will devote 3 or 4 hours to reading through all of my archives, even as they post comments about how lame I am.
The latest one is the most dedicated. Judging from the pattern of attack, his/her understanding of English is minimal or nonexistent. Yet this foul-mouthed racist reader is going through every entry, looking for comments in Mandarin and writing asian-supremacy follow-ups. It has been going on over several days now.
Sometimes I get a series of negative blog comments that arrive a few minutes apart, from older and older entries. It's clearly from a single reader.
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吾尝得间或之负面博客评价，甚尔很古老之帖子，吾判断此乃一人所为也。
They will devote 3 or 4 hours to reading through all of my archives, even as they post comments about how lame I am.
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有人兴奋乃费三四小时来观吾之如此之古老之帖，甚尔置诸如“吾乃烂人”之评论。
The latest one is the most dedicated. Judging from the pattern of attack, his/her understanding of English is minimal or nonexistent. Yet this foul-mouthed racist reader is going through every entry, looking for comments in Mandarin and writing asian-supremacy follow-ups. It has been going on over several days now.
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最近一人士更而“专注”。吾从其攻击风格于是判断乃一不熟英文之先生/小姐，甚而是种族主义者，下流无比，以普通话（还几吧满大人呢……）撰写亚洲至上论（错矣，乃中国至上论）。此乃最近即日之似水流年故事……
引用“在21世纪，中国人定会统治这个世界。”
这种谬论你也能说出来！ 看看吧：中国人使用的电脑是美国人发明的，网络是美国人发明的，飞机是美国的.中国只是在邓小平的正确改革开放方针领导下，取得了一丁点儿成就，就让你这样的人冲昏了头脑？ 中国的制度和美国更本无法比，劝你别去相信“共产主义那样的鬼话！ 清醒吧，朋友！
Niniane，是我非常崇拜的偶象！ 因为她能做到的事我一样都做不到，到现在，我的英文都好烂.我有空就会来看看她写的博客.已经成了我生活中的一部分。所以，请你这样的人，不要再来发表谬论，攻击她！
对我来说，我出生在中国，却是美国人养育了我！因为通过互联网，赚到了美元，使我生活更美好。
Thanks The United States of America！
Hey I can sign in using my google account. This thing is awesome!
maybe you should just do one of those limited access things that they do on xanga. I mean it sucks to have to have everyone register, but its probably better than letting someone turn your website into a forum for racist propoganda.
对我来说，我出生在中国，却是美国人养育了我！因为通过互联网，赚到了美元，使我生活更美好。
Thanks The United States of America！
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说这句话的人，你有没有脑子啊？是你自己养育了你自己，怎么是美国白人养你呢？
你是靠美国白人施舍而生的啊！！什么TMD狗屁逻辑。
你NINIANE知道一个简单的道理吗，在美国都不敢讨论的，我告诉你，你以为“美联储”是“中国人民银行”啊？
我告诉你，不是的，是私人公司的合伙“银行”。
我记得有一位犹太人银行家说过这样的话：只要我掌握某个国家的货币发行权，谁当国王都无所谓。
这就是美元的本质——从根本上就是一个“恶魔”，一个吸全世界人民鲜血的恶魔。
美元的本质，既然是恶魔，那么就必然要将美元消灭。
而泡沫破灭最好的方法就是戳破它。
纸币，要保留它的价值只有两种办法：
1、用枪逼你用——所以美国有世界上最大的军事预算；
2、有足够的货币发行准备（比如黄金白银之类的）——这也是美国白人（连带现今的八国联军们）在中东地区如此嚣张的原因——因为他们必须要取得货币发行的本金。
世界运行得很复杂，远比你NINIANE小姐编程的那个程序复杂多了。
世界就是个大程序——找到美国这个程序的联系调用的环节，也就是让它死机可能发生的可能。
NINIANE——I LOVE U（怎么样，偶的英语好不好·）
安拉——干，操
实际上NINIANE长得很丑是不是，不知道她那些图片是不是拍得艺术照？搞得很漂亮似的，其实在中国大街上随便抓一个都比她漂亮。
不知道是不是在美国白人基因里的丑陋的一面通过空气传给了她的原因。
NINIANE，我建议你到韩国去整整荣。
Hahahah asian-supremacy....
Never heard that one before....
They're all hung like fruit bats...
The Asian guy pulled down his pants and she said.
"Who you gonna please with that?"
He looked at her and said. "Me who else"
Forgive us!
疯子，你不会用这种方法来泡我们的Niniane吧？
Niniane，你长得很丑知道吗？
我建议你到韩国去整容，没钱我给你。
整得漂亮点。
Anonymous
Please speak English.
The language of your master.
SHit,English is evil's language.D U KNow?
We know your language,but u don't know our language.
We know your culture, but u don't know our culture.
D U know who is master in the 21 century?
Of course ,we are ur master.
D U know?
White bitch, why not delete the blogger website?
hehe ,u know ,the things i paste r ur historical crime.
U can't delete that, bcz it happened before.
U whitemen must be in hell.
We can fuck ur west evil
Niniane，给你道歉了。
实际上我是模仿周星驰风格开你一个玩笑而已。
你还是很漂亮的，很有才气的。
如果你能把才气带给中国，那更是一种福气。
你开发的白云啊黑土啊我都看了。
在GOOGLE之类的公司做，很容易让自己的技术陷于太广泛的一面。
你应该在细化一些，专注于某一个领域。
以后偶每天来夸一次NINIANE小姐。
1ST DAY（一个亚洲人说的）：NINIANE是非常漂亮的姑娘。
U should be dedicated in one industry such as finance or fish application. U do everything in Google.But when u get old and old, what should u do?
U can't do anything in google.Why not deep-kiss with only one thing.
2006年的中国首富是张茵女士——收废纸做办公纸的女人。
哇，Niniane是如此的美丽哦。
这里有没NINIANE的COWORKER？
我想知道NINIANE有没嫁人啊？
你不要光说别人，你爸爸也是种族主义者。
呵呵……
Most of these trolls don't even make sense! I think someone's been inhaling a bit too much pollution today.
Niniane你这条狗，被白人操爽了吧
I love you Niniane!
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