Chatting during dinner.
Coworker #2: My ex keeps talking to me! I need to move on, and she's making it harder.
Coworker #1: Just do what I do.
Rest of us: [turning attentively toward him]
Coworker #1: Delete her number from your mobile, block her from your IM, and tell your common friends, "Pick a side -- me or her."
I told this to Trent, who said, "Don't forget to set up an email filter so that her emails are automatically routed to the Trash."
Dan and I previously discussed the best way to handle a breakup. You can either continue to talk to each other, or stop contact cold turkey until you're both over it.
We both think it's better to take a break from your ex, until the relationship ashes are cold.
Now, the difficult situation is if your ex wants to talk, and you've moved on but you know they haven't. Further contact is going to prolong their recovery. Do you figure that they know what's best for themselves, so you go along? Or do you decide they're not behaving in their own best interests, and you ignore their calls in order to protect them from themselves?