tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post7895261660155777105..comments2023-11-30T11:57:43.224-08:00Comments on Niniane's Blog: i realize the system is flawed if dinner involves eating pig knucklesNhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06731517033909059791noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-30633184368267858342008-03-30T07:18:00.000-07:002008-03-30T07:18:00.000-07:00@AnonymousSince when pointing out flaws a form of ...@Anonymous<BR/><BR/>Since when pointing out flaws a form of disrespect? It is in a way, but not always. And in no way do I disrespect any environment and culture that doesn't demoralise a society.<BR/><BR/>Don't jump to conclusions.KwangErn Liewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13959942175376408140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-67979157385474832272008-03-29T03:44:00.000-07:002008-03-29T03:44:00.000-07:00@ke liewFirst you talk about respect and after tha...@ke liew<BR/><BR/>First you talk about respect and after that you say bad things about Western culture. <BR/><BR/>You are the one who doesn't have respect!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-87663703875825121382008-03-26T01:59:00.000-07:002008-03-26T01:59:00.000-07:00The trick is you take your plate and extend it as ...The trick is you take your plate and extend it as far away as possible, so that the host can't reach it. <BR/><BR/>Then he won't have a choice and remember to keep a smile on your face all the time :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-30469253156879631082008-03-25T14:50:00.000-07:002008-03-25T14:50:00.000-07:00Good view on the negative aspect of it.But hey, th...Good view on the negative aspect of it.<BR/><BR/>But hey, the flip side is, one won't learn/know what patience means, nor acceptance, nor tolerance, nor meekness, nor adaptability, nor respect.<BR/><BR/>I guess that's why there's such a difference in western and eastern culture in many different levels. Also a potential reason why East still have high values and morals as supposed to the West in varying degrees.KwangErn Liewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13959942175376408140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-20710928314641437732008-03-25T14:45:00.000-07:002008-03-25T14:45:00.000-07:00In Ireland, generally, people assume that if you ...In Ireland, generally, people assume that if you refuse more than three times you really don't want it. Though they can be pretty <A HREF="http://youtube.com/watch?v=TVH3IBr_Ipk" REL="nofollow">persistent</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-92004598003096925582008-03-24T21:15:00.000-07:002008-03-24T21:15:00.000-07:00At a neighbor's Chinese New Year party, I was told...At a neighbor's Chinese New Year party, I was told that you need to refuse things eight times before the offerer will act accordingly. An inefficient protocol, I admit. Perhaps, Niniane, you're giving up too easily. Or you need a device to help count off the number of refusals.<BR/><BR/>I like the idea of a safe word. I especially like that a notion from sadomasochist practice (that is the origin of the term "safe word") could become a principle of etiquette. What's next, handkerchief codes to indicate what programming languages you're proficient in? :)<BR/><BR/>mahlenmahlenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17671536910733729368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-36835705293477029132008-03-24T17:53:00.000-07:002008-03-24T17:53:00.000-07:00"The system works fine until it catches on and peo..."The system works fine until it catches on and people start using it. Then, once it became a common saying, you'll end up back at the beginning."<BR/><BR/>Simple fix: don't let people devalue the trump phrase.<BR/><BR/>Next, I'll detail how to fix procrastination and other flaws of human nature. It's just that easy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-87321710990417090892008-03-24T17:45:00.000-07:002008-03-24T17:45:00.000-07:00Why the complexity? A punch in the face will do t...Why the complexity? A punch in the face will do the trick.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-86647548226038039642008-03-24T16:48:00.000-07:002008-03-24T16:48:00.000-07:00But a safeword takes all the fun out of creative a...But a safeword takes all the fun out of creative and complimentary refusals! "I understand the duck is fantastic, but my taste is not as attenuated to the subtleties as yours. Would you describe the flavors to me?" <BR/>A safeword is also like a cellphone - allowing you to change your mind. "Since I have hitchhiked extensively, I prefer to keep my backpack at my knees. The physical contact reassures me that my belonging are safe." <BR/>Finally, a safeword is an easy escape, allowing you to kludge yourself out of a situation made ambiguous by initial framing, instead of preemptively identifying and eliminating the conflict either by getting more information:<BR/>"Is your trunk very full?"<BR/>Or providing clear intent:<BR/>"I am quite excited by ~dish~ and do not want to mix flavors" <BR/>But then again, I take most things at face value, 'cause it's easier for me that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-22304210356998985612008-03-23T23:44:00.000-07:002008-03-23T23:44:00.000-07:00I always hated when my parents fought over the che...I always hated when my parents fought over the check with their Chinese friends when we went out to eat for dinner - everyone fighting over the check to "save face."Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11888299918507299584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-3831233151317521892008-03-23T23:37:00.000-07:002008-03-23T23:37:00.000-07:00The infinite courtesy loop frustrates me. I'm doi...The infinite courtesy loop frustrates me. I'm doing my part to break out of this ludicrous tradition by using the guideline of "relinquish efforts after the second consecutive insistence."<BR/><BR/>e.g.<BR/><BR/>[Paying for dinner]<BR/>Host: I'm treating you.<BR/>Me: No, I'll get it.<BR/>Host: No, don't be so polite!<BR/>Me: Done. Thanks for dinner.<BR/><BR/><BR/>On the other hand... "pig knuckles" seems like it could be fun, and might be the adaptation of a new-age "Penis!" game :pxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01308269391388579451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-4137499960141627452008-03-23T23:07:00.000-07:002008-03-23T23:07:00.000-07:00Comment moderation has been enabled. All comments ...Comment moderation has been enabled. All comments must be approved by the blog author.<BR/>???<BR/><BR/>Time to find a new site where comments are not edited by the dictator :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-36952126647316523452008-03-23T20:38:00.000-07:002008-03-23T20:38:00.000-07:00The system works fine until it catches on and peop...The system works fine until it catches on and people start using it. Then, once it became a common saying, you'll end up back at the beginning. You'll say the secret word, the host assumes you're just being polite and then insists further. Thus will the circle of life continue forever until we get sick of each other and blow ourselves up.Strider Aragornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05216854570652653883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-5518741705270678902008-03-23T19:56:00.000-07:002008-03-23T19:56:00.000-07:00In wrestling matches do they have a word for when ...In wrestling matches do they have a word for when it really hurts? Perhaps we could reuse.Philipp Lenssenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09340991515644165702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-64740778601060672912008-03-23T16:38:00.000-07:002008-03-23T16:38:00.000-07:00Try saying, slowly and with as much 'gravitas' as ...Try saying, slowly and with as much 'gravitas' as possible, "No, I really don't WANT any duck". It's important to say this while imagining that you are actually saying "Bring the duck any closer and you'll be pooping duck next week!". The seriousness will come across, trust me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-56546078383848346552008-03-23T15:35:00.000-07:002008-03-23T15:35:00.000-07:00You seem to be using the F-word a lot more in your...You seem to be using the F-word a lot more in your blog posts these days. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-54536169425396989322008-03-23T14:52:00.000-07:002008-03-23T14:52:00.000-07:00It doesn't have to be a meaningful bigram to make ...It doesn't have to be a meaningful bigram to make a good, uh, let's call it a "politeness safeword."<BR/><BR/>So we could go with, for example, "Saskatchewan otaku".<BR/><BR/>That way you won't accidentally be served some pork knuckles, if you're on a business trip to Germany or Research Triangle.Matthewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17389414597142238373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-20749764859824888032008-03-23T11:51:00.000-07:002008-03-23T11:51:00.000-07:00"i realize the system is flawed if dinner involves..."i realize the system is flawed if dinner involves eating pig knuckles"<BR/><BR/>And in fact, pig knuckles are delicious. Maybe 'hog anus' would have a lower likelihood of inadvertent confusion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6230750.post-6984700629304574202008-03-23T11:10:00.000-07:002008-03-23T11:10:00.000-07:00I never win with my MIL, so I just take it at firs...I never win with my MIL, so I just take it at first offer....she offers the best piece of lobster tail...I take it! HA!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com